Feeling and accepting momentary feelings
Momentary feelings are feelings I have at a given moment.
When I'm feeling bad,
it's important to realise that those bad feelings are there.
And to observe them carefully.
I can deal with these feelings better that way.
Sometimes I can't change a bad feeling right away.
Then it can help
to accept the feeling as it is.
And then stress and tension can go down.
Here's an example:
This train of thought can help:
I didn't get any love as a child.
This will be with me for the rest of my life.
I'll feel bad again and again.
But I'll also have good times.
These have nothing to do with the bad experience.
I'm safe now.
There's a phrase we like a lot for times like these:
"Wounds that do not heal
must be well tended to."
Which means:
Some emotional wounds will be there for a lifetime.
But they can hurt less over time.
Psychotherapy or counselling helps with this.
This exercise can also help:
"That’s the way it is right now."